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The
Alarm Clock of Your Life is Ringing
Chapter 2
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| VIBRATION
AND JUDGEMENT RELEASE |
A
variety of tools are out there to help you
become self aware and reconnected, such as
meditation or prayer, crystals, aromatherapy,
massage, yoga, writing in a journal, reading or
attending seminars. I have participated in many
of them and as a result, have learned a great
deal about self-awareness. As I mentioned, by
putting sound to my feelings, releasing
judgements and letting the energy move through
me fully, I experience a most powerful
transformation, especially when I apply these
techniques in conjunction with other tools of
self-discovery.
Even if verbalizing emotions feels intense and
weird (especially at first), you will at least
experience the mere release of some tension and
stress you are holding in your body if you give
it a try. You are probably not even aware of the
tension on an emotional and physical level.
Applying sound will make more space for those
feelings of relaxation and tension release. Like
any type of exercise, you need a beginning
point. Once you know how to begin, the exercise
is a lot easier and you feel the benefits.
Likewise, expression of feelings is a natural
response. Once you begin, it seems to happen
automatically. It is like turning on a switch
you forgot was there. When someone says
something to you, or when a thought comes into
your head, your gut will respond to the thought
with a feeling.
We are so backed up with our natural responses,
we have the feeling no one will accept what our
true response has to say. Unfortunately, this
feeling may be accurate. When we dig deep
enough, we usually find it is our own selves
that do not have acceptance for those feelings.
If so, it is no wonder no one else will accept
them either. |
APPLYING VERBALIZATION TECHNIQUES
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For
instance, let us examine a conversation you
might have had with your mother. It's understood
that she loves you and you love her. When she
was giving you the pep talk (or nag talk), and
you say, "I will, I will", it may feel
like she is pressuring you. No matter how well
intended she might be, her pep talk may bring up
those feelings of 'not doing enough' and of
'falling short of expectations'. Maybe you just
do not want to hear it anymore.
The words go through your head or out of your
mouth at her. "I am doing the best I can!
Get off my case!" Instead of using angry
words, you could try something new by putting
the words of blaming rage more into sound (RRRRRROOARR,
GRRRRRRROWL). Try that for a while. Now maybe it
moves into blaming rage at yourself (RRRRRRRRRR),
why can't I get my act together. I am screwing
up (RRRRRRRRRRRR). When some of the intense
charge gets vibrated and moved, some other
thoughts may mingle. Your mother may be the
trigger for this, but when you start to dig, you
find your own self dissatisfaction lies at the
bottom of the barrel, with feelings of
powerlessness. HHHHHMMMMMMM, UUUGGGHHHHH, sigh
and cry.
Prior to expressing these verbal sounds, you may
want to communicate your new technique so that
you don't startle or offend those you are
addressing! The idea here is to safely create a
non-antagonistic approach to releasing your
anger. Maybe grief and pain that has been backed
up for so long needs some serious release,
perhaps through tears, lots of growls or deep
sighs. Whatever the method, release your
judgments such as 'You are a screw up'. Remember
that you are an aspect of 'Loving Light' in
creation. You are not "screwed up".
You simply have been having great difficulty
because you have been cut off from the Light
(our spiritual connection) in so many ways. By
putting sound to feelings, you are actively
doing something to heal and reconnect with the
Light. It is an opportunity for healing. You can
feel good about recognizing this. |
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INCREASING PERSONAL POWER
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A
little commitment goes a long way. It
certainly cannot hurt to try to release
tension by verbalizing your emotions. If
someone is getting argumentative and you
feel defensive, or you need to stand up for
yourself but you do not want to toss your
rage at anyone else, this is an opportunity
to vibrate your feelings first in sound, (grrrr)
so you can be direct with your words. You
need to become acquainted and comfortable
with yourself and how you really feel.
Vibrate your feelings in private if that is
what feels most comfortable. You need to
create a comfortable space for your process
to unfold. When you are less charged, you
may be able to say, "I appreciate your
input, but I am not in agreement with you
because of X, Y and Z." You are having
an exchange of clarity and completion
without using hurtful words or going after
someone with your rage.
There is a locked-up part inside of you, the
part that protects you and knows when things
do not feel fair. Yet we all have swallowed
our feelings anyway, at one time or another.
You can get them back. Using sound helps you
find those lost feelings. It brings them
back to life so you can begin to heal. By
regaining pieces of yourself, gaining wisdom
and learning the balance, you increase your
personal power.
People will take advantage of you for as
long as you allow it. I spent a long time
learning that. When I finally reconnected
and remembered my true upset and all my
feelings of unfairness with the people with
whom I was surrounding myself, I experienced
incredible rage. I had rage at myself for
allowing these personal offenses for such a
long time. However, the lesson lasted as
long as it needed to, until I was willing to
do something about it. I recognized my fear
by applying sound. I was able to look at all
of the unhappiness in my life and my fears
about what it all might mean. Once I had
some acceptance for those feelings, I was
able to feel my rage and upset, and put
sound to those feelings.
Then I had compassion and understanding
about my situation and was able to forgive
myself for not listening to my needs for so
long. I realized I could not allow it any
more. It was unloving to me. I would never
do that to anyone. Why would I accept it
myself? So, I did not allow it anymore. That
experience has changed my life, and I
continue to learn from what happened to me. |
RELEASING JUDGMENTS
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In
the beginning of exploring any issue within
yourself, you must start by being open to
the possibility you may be holding on to
inaccurate information. You can start by
verbally releasing the judgement. For
instance, you can say to yourself, "I
release the judgement that I am not smart
enough, not pretty, not lovable, that life
is hopeless"-whatever those words are
saying to keep the belief locked in place.
Then, apply some sound to the feeling. Sound
is a tool to help reconnect you to other
parts of yourself and to new information.
Again, sound is a vibration. We are living,
vibrating beings. It does not have to be
some long, drawn out affair. Sometimes a few
seconds of sighing is more than adequate,
and sometimes hours of sobbing might be the
only hope for relief, depending on the depth
of the experience.
There is no right or wrong sound. There is
not a certain amount of time you should
spend applying sound either. It is situation
specific. When something is funny, we laugh,
maybe just a chuckle, or possibly a ten
minute belly laugh. When something is sad,
we cry. When we are sick, sometimes all we
can do is lie on the couch and moan-which is
a natural response. Allow yourself to
verbalize your emotions-even if you just try
it out in private. You may find it really
works.
We hold back our natural, spontaneous
responses because of judgements on our
feelings. Perhaps we are not giving some
expected or appropriate response. A whole
range of emotions may need expression to get
cleared up. The most direct way to clear
them up is to put some kind of guttural
sound to what you feel.
You may fully understand in your head that
you have choices about how you think about
things, and that what you believe creates
your reality. Allowing your emotional body
to express helps it move much faster. It
helps your emotions keep up with your rapid
mental pace. The part that sees the ideal
needs to merge more with your emotions that
have been experiencing another reality. Your
feelings and your thoughts must balance
together.
Sometimes you may feel embarrassed, awkward,
angered, or guilty. Normally, there is no
expression for those kinds of feelings.
Giving expression to a particular feeling
does not mean you will necessarily go out
and act on it or that you will be stuck
feeling it forever. It just allows you to
move the energy through you, instead of
holding onto it.
Maybe you find yourself putting sound to
your feelings when you are annoyed. These
sounds may express themselves as a growl (grrrrrrrrr,
rooooaaaarrrr). What do the words of rage
say? An example might be, 'I can not go on
vacation, because it's my responsibility to
take care of the dog.' Normally, you might
push these feelings aside because you know
you really love your dog. Or maybe you are
sometimes unfairly short and sharp with your
dog because no matter what you seem to do or
how much you love your pet, your annoyance
pops out anyway. To feel the annoyance and
to vibrate it into sound will transform the
feelings.
Once you have expressed the anger in sound,
the anger may shift away from the issue of
the dog and on to yourself. Now, you
realize, maybe with planning and family
cooperation, you could vacation after all.
Perhaps you were playing the martyr and
doing the self-sacrifice bit unnecessarily.
So, now it becomes your responsibility, and
clearly it was your choice not to go on
vacation-it was not the dog's fault.
Now that some of that charge of anger has
been vibrated in sound, and now that you
have more information regarding the
situation, you are not as likely to be as
angry. You have more space within yourself
to appreciate and love your dog and to love
yourself more, too. Now you're free to make
vacation plans. The example about the dog
can also be much deeper and multi-layered
with much more information to reveal if you
are willing to accept it. Each person's
experience is different and each person's
judgements are different, yet the trip is
the same. We all have blockages that need to
be cleared up, usually having to do with
feelings of not being good enough. Often
these feelings of inadequacies are
well-hidden. Yet if you are making a
conscious choice to bring more clarity to
your life, the joy and love we truly desire
in our lives can be found. It fills those
spaces within us that have not felt good for
a long while and transforms those feelings. |
EXAMINING MOTIVATIONS
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After
vibrating your rage and recognizing your
feelings, you may now explore your behavior
as possibly being a martyr. If you have
always put everyone else before yourself,
including the dog, how does it feel to
choose to deprive yourself, and then blame
someone else for the deprivation? You must
be willing to look at yourself honestly, in
order to be able to transform what does not
feel so good into something better.
Look honestly at how you have been behaving.
Are your reactions based on looking good in
the eyes of others, instead of what is
really good for you? Release any judgements
you find as words go through your head. 'I
release the judgement that I do not deserve
what I want.' For whatever reason, there was
a twist in your thinking. You believed you
had to deprive yourself. Once you have
transformed those feelings and gained more
insight into what makes you 'you', you may
be overwhelmed with emotion.
Usually fear and anger go hand in hand. One
is usually layered beneath the other. Keep
vibrating your feelings. If you find you
have blaming rage at others, perhaps once
you express this in sound, you might find
you have fear and judgements that you cannot
have what you want, that life never works
out for you, that it is an impossible
situation, or that you are powerless. Once
you move through these feelings, you may
realize it is working through these feelings
that will help you regain your power and
enable you to take more action in your life.
Sometimes revelation can be quite a powerful
experience. Some call it having a
break-through, or a significant emotional
event. As you vibrate those feelings, you
may feel connected to your inner self (or
your higher self). Then you may feel full in
your heart and grateful for having had the
experience. As a result, you were able to
free yourself in that particular area. When
this kind of revelation or experience
occurs, it may feel spiritual.
The feeling of connecting spirituality can
occur when you are able to put light in an
area of yourself you previously did not see.
Once you have explored this spiritual
connection, you are conscious of that piece
of you. You are awakening. You are more
enlightened now after the experience. Take a
moment to connect with your higher spirit,
or the light that just turned on inside of
you. This part of the process usually feels
really great and fulfilling to me-mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Be joyous, happy, and love yourself. It will
allow you to love others more. |
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Author
: Lisa Miller
ISBN: 0-9706092-1-3
$12.95 U.S / $18.95 Canada
Paperback / Non-Fiction
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